It’s bound to happen, things not turning out the way we’d expect but that’s life. A big part of it in fact.

First one must be willing to stop setting themselves up for failure via unrealistic expectations.

Second, understand the patterns of one’s past so that unrealistic expectations no longer become possible when things turn sideways.

Third, discover the root of one’s fears.

Forth, understand that fear is necessary.

Fifth, begin to come to terms with all one has felt, does feel and will feel.

Sixth, learn to stop using the moments of uncertainty as reasons to validate fear because it’s easiest to do.

Seven, love who one is, what one has and where one has gone and will go.

Eight, love life for what it is, not for what it isn’t.


-Gustavo Lomas