Honestly, it’s the most difficult thing to do, being honest.
But its the most important thing you can ever do for yourself.
I mean honestly, opening up to anything you’ve faced or gone through and addressing it head on. Taking responsibility for your faults and letting go of the faults of others. It’s not easy in the slightest but that’s how you know it’s necessary.
If you have trouble with this, I suggest seeking a good therapist. One with whom you click with and who clicks with you. Not because there’s something wrong with you, or whatever negative stigma you might’ve heard, but simply to help gain a better understanding in your concerns with honesty.
It’s important to know that you should never go into a therapy session with a plan on what you’ll talk about because all you’ll be doing is taking away from your growth.
Have a basic idea but never a full set plan. And once you start, be open and honest about everything and anything. You owe it to yourself. You’re there to speak with a therapist and grow but you’re there most importantly to be honest with yourself. No matter how odd or painful the feelings or thoughts, you need to express them otherwise you’re just wasting your and the therapist’s time as well as your money.
It may take a while to get to that point and that’s understandable. As long as you continue to push yourself out of your comfort zone so that you can begin to live life fully and without fear.
…Without being continuously pulled back by your past.
Trust me, from personal experience, there’s a difference between getting over your past and getting through it. The only sure way to no longer allow your past to dictate your present is to: stop, allow yourself to be immersed in it and slowly begin to walk though each part of it and see all perspectives of all the people involved in those moments. You won’t agree with all perspectives but it’s important you at least try to understand all sides. For your peace of mind.
You do this, and soon you’ll find that the memories and worries that once felt so important to hold onto will begin to fade and dissipate. You’ll begin to feel and gain your freedom. The freedom you’ve been longing for but that somehow always continued to be out of reach.
I need to stress this yet again: NONE OF THIS WILL BE EASY.
That doesn’t mean it’s impossible.